Bippity Boppity Boo: Becoming Your Own Fairy Godmother

I'm just coming off of 2 days at Disneyland with my mom, sister-in-law and two almost-Kindergarteners- my older daughter and niece.  When my mom first proposed the idea, I didn't jump at the opportunity. When I thought of Disneyland, I thought of overstimulation with a capital O: massive crowds, unpleasant smells, and loud, annoying noises.  Sensory overload using vacation days?  No thank you! Though as the trip approached, I began to get really excited to see the magic of it through my daughter's eyes.  

And magic is was!  We had entered a full on fantasy world.  This all got me thinking- how do we as adults invite magic into our lives?  I'm talking the antithesis of the flat "another day another dollar" mentality.

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5 Ways to Minimize Your Fear

After being exposed to the movies “Child’s Play” and “Carrie” at an impressionable young age, I decided I was done with scary movies.  The gore, creepy music and blood curling screams just didn’t do it for me. 

What happens, though, when the fear comes from what is happening in the world around us?  I’m not talking make believe any more.  I’m talking about the very real fear of losing health insurance or being harassed because of your religion, skin color, accent and/or sexual preference.  If we’re able to break through fear, what’s on the other side?  I believe it’s love.  Here are 5 ways to break on through to the other side (cue The Doors song). 

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Finding Peace in Turbulent Times

I’ve never been one to watch the news much.  Sure, I’ll read headlines, but watching the news itself is always such a downer that I decide not to put myself through it.  Lately, though, difficult-to-stomach news seems to be everywhere we look.  In a world where it’s hard to turn off all the information coming our way, I offer you 6 tips for finding peace in turbulent times.  (Full disclosure: I'm writing these for myself too.)

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What Will Your Costume Be?

Happy month of Halloween, everyone!  Halloween is one of my favorite holidays with the smell of crisp leaves, access to copious amounts of candy and the opportunity to dress up.  I've always been a big fan of dressing up in costume.  It could be my background in musical theater (being the tush of the camel in Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat counts, right?) or that it feels fun to act so silly.  I think when it really comes down to it, though, I like dressing up in costume because it feels freeing to be someone else for a while.  

We are all seen in a certain way.  Think of a word or two that people have always used to describe you. Nice?  Funny?  Smart?  Successful?  We've all been called things that are not nearly so positive as well, but let's not even go there for now.  I'm a big believer that we all have various sides- it just so happens that one side is typically taking the lead!  Tired of being nice or funny or smart all the time?  It's exhausting right?!  Here's my challenge for you: find a "costume" for this month that is the opposite of your go-to trait.

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How Do Coaching and Therapy Differ?

Lately I’ve gotten a lot of questions from potential clients about how coaching and therapy differ.  Both are increasing in popularity and folks in the market to “talk it out” with someone want to choose wisely.  While some people access both services simultaneously, it’s not in the budget for many to do so.   

After discussing the question of the similarities and differences with respected colleagues who are coaches and therapists, I've come to realize that the answer is not simple.  It's blurry for a variety of reasons- one being that there are so many types of coaching and therapy.  That said- I’d like to share my take with you. 

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Growing Your Gratitude

Even the most positive people need to tend to their gratitude gardens sometimes.  The soil gets dry, the flowers get wilted, and- let's be honest- it can start to stink.  A month ago, I found myself with a dry, grown over gratitude garden.  I was waking up in the morning and laying down at night thinking about mountains of logistics and small annoyances. Did I remember to pack school lunch? Oh no, tomorrow is trash day! Did I respond to that email? My daughter was really getting on my nerves tonight. Did I handle that situation poorly? Needless to say, that didn't feel good and I knew something had to be done.

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Love Letter To Yourself

I recently co-led a workshop called "Court Yo'Self: Self Care Practices for Badass Women." First of all, how awesome is it that 12 women thought enough of themselves to say "Yes, I am a badass woman" by signing up?!  Since my co-leader and I see self-care and self-love as very intertwined, we led this group of badass women through an exercise where they wrote love letters to themselves.  Imagine that!  It's not so often we get to recognize and celebrate our own fabulousness.  

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